Expectations

“I never thought you’d do this to me…”

If you’ve ever said something like this to somebody you knew, then you definitely know the pain behind these few words.. But you also know another thing & that is, you expected something else from this person. It is something way different than what he or she did to you & your reaction would have been very positive if they had done the thing you expected them to do.

We become happy if everything works according to our expectations, but suddenly get irritated, sad & impatient when the opposite happens. This is what almost everybody has been doing around us since our childhood. It made us think that it is a normal human behaviour, so we just started copying them. But is it really normal?

Think for a moment how your life would have been if you had never ever expected anything from anybody you met throughout all these years. What would have happened if you just said, did & gave everything you chose/can to all those people you knew & expected nothing, absolutely nothing in return? Is it that hard to do? If you have done so, perhaps you could have lived a more peaceful life. Perhaps you could have gained a lot of happiness beyond your wildest dreams simply because your thoughts are so pure that universe can’t help but to be so amazing to you…

What is stopping you right now from achieving that state? Isn’t it just your inflated ego? For some reason you always feel that you just ‘deserve’ something in return for everything you do for others. Sometimes you expect them to treat you well even when you don’t really care to treat them the same way. You see all your life as some kind of a business & you’re unconsciously thinking that you were born to do business deals with all the people you meet.

It’s great when they do everything as you expect, but if one thing goes wrong, you will do your very best to destroy them or at least their minds. You smile with someone & you expect them to smile with you everyday but if they fail to do so at least one day, you will be like, “Anna arunta hari gihin wage! Apo tiyena aadambarakama!”. But the real reason behind their reaction simply could have been that they were suffering from grave problems at homes & they didn’t even see you smiling at them that day…

What happens with this kind of a judgmental attitude? You begin to see everything & everyone as ways to either make you happy or sad; it’s always in one extreme. You start depending upon external situations & people for your ‘fate’. By the time many people understand that there’s absolutely nothing & no one they can control in this world but that’s the exact thing they’ve been trying to do all this time, they are actually lying alone on their death beds.

But ‘You’ are luckier than the most people. ‘You’ still have time…